Also a lot of lolita style clothing (which are often based on victorian designs) take a lot more fabric and are more tailored than most casual modern styles. I would imagine all of the problems/extra expenses that are involved in making plus size clothing are compounded for lolita clothing. Since this is a niche global market I doubt retailers would make much money catering to sizes over 10 (especially since in much of asia and europe there aren’t as many fat people.)
This. The majority of Brand is made in a country with a lower average weight than the west and dominated by a market with a weight even lower than that (fashion in general, heck). The people who make and wear lolita fashion in the country it originates are small people, thin and short with different proportions than westerners. This will cause problems for all types of people; tall (taller than 5’3”), those with boobs or larger butts, those with broad shoulders, those with longer torsos, those who are fat or even above average weight, etc. While there are many western brands popping up these days as well as individuals making loli clothing, the majority is still going to focus on the people who actually wear it most; those in the japanese fashion culture. There are some places like etsy, livejournal and private american designers where you can find a wider range of sizes and styles and more and more are making clothing for fat girls.
For the reasons above, I can’t even find many styles to wear even though I love the fashion, and I’m 130lbs; the average weight in japan. But being 5’7”, broad shouldered, with boobs and an ass makes it pretty damn difficult. Fat people are not special in this situation.
so I had yet another shopping fiasco this weekend. Went to Pinko with my mum because she saw some leather skirts (I’ve been looking for one for ages) and put them on hold in ‘my size’ so I could come try them on.
The assistant brings down the skirts and my heart sinks as I see them. I go ‘what size are these?’ and she says ‘38’ and I say ‘oh, do you not have them in a smaller size?’ and she gives me this fucking judgemental look and says ‘it’s a uk 6, no.’ (that’s a US 2) So I try on the damn skirts and they all hang off me like sacks and I just felt so miserable and was in the worst mood for the rest of the day.
My mum totally didn’t help either, she was all ‘Alexandra you need to put on weight this is just not attractive, nothing will ever fit you’ and the fucking problem isn’t my weight, it’s that shops don’t make clothes for people my size (my waist circumference is 22”). And I don’t want to put on weight because that wouldn’t be natural for me. I like my body the way it is naturally but I don’t like being judged for it, and I swear to god, if another person tells me to ‘go eat a burger’ or ‘eat more cake’ I might actually flip out and hit them. When shit like this happens I go and fucking overeat and nothing happens except that I feel sick and unable to move for the rest of the day.
Anyway, I’m just so glad I have this blog to go to, because I feel it’s literally the only place where people actually understand what I go through and the shit I have to put up with, without judging me. Thanks guys :)
Dear everyone bitching about being “oppressed” because you are not thin: get. over. yourselves.
Most obese people can lose weight. Most people in my family are overweight and I thought I was because of genetics.
Then I tried not eating more than I needed to, and got my ass to the gym.
Oppression happens to things you cannot change. Obesity can be changed.
While I agree that for most people, long term weight loss is definitely possible, I do think that for the obese or morbidly obese, losing that weight can be extremely difficult. It’s easy to lose 50 pounds. Losing 200 pounds or more however takes an extreme amount of time, effort, support, guidance and resources. It’s still possible, but for a lot of people I can see how it can be so tough that they would rather not try at all. Starting to lose and then keeping the momentum until the goal seems incredibly hard. Those that go through huge weight loss like that are truly the toughest people. Just look at their youtube vlogs and stuff, they have so much drive!